Non Violence Programme

Our Non Violence Programme is open to anyone who needs help to manage the way they respond to stressors.

Accepting that your behaviours are impacting the people you love is the first step to creating change. Maybe you have noticed that your current behaviour is hurting those you love, or maybe someone has suggested you get help. We work with those who are self referring, or those who are being referred through a service for a mandated program.

Our program helps individuals to take an honest look at their relationships and how their use of violence or abuse may be impacting their whanau.

We start all programmes by doing a thorough assessment so we can identify strengths, supports and any areas where we may be able to build skills - it is important for your counsellor to understand the current needs and risks.

Some of the program content you may then cover with your counsellor is:

  • Understanding the cycle of violence

  • Abuse and its impacts

  • Risk assessment

  • Safety planning and supports

  • Abusive behaviours checklist

  • How to recognise the patterns of abusive attitudes and behaviours

  • Understanding how beliefs and values can shape choices

  • Understanding and managing emotions

  • Distress tolerance

  • Coping mechanisms and skills

  • Communication skills

  • Parenting responsibly and safely

  • Impacts of abuse on victims and children

  • Safely managing access and custody issues

  • Setting boundaries

  • The link between substance abuse and family violence; and more

Many people are not aware of common abusive behaviours. If you are doing any of these things to your partner or whanau, it may be a good idea to speak to a professional.

  • Physically hurt others

  • Control or monitor loved ones

  • Threaten to harm or kill others

  • Threaten children, someone else, or pets

  • Go through partners phone, email, social media

  • Put your hands around partners neck, or otherwise impede their breathing

  • Intentionally scared partner with words and/or actions

  • Call your partner or children names, degrade or humiliate them

  • Break or destroy your partners belongings, or your home

  • Stalk partner or intimidate them

  • Withholds affection or control finances as a way to manage or control others

  • Stop, or makes it hard for your partner, to see their friends and family.

If any of these behaviours sound like you, click the button below to reach out to a counsellor.